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Top 20 Reasons Moms of Kids With Special Needs ROCK

2010/05/17 By 12 Comments
  1. Because we never thought that “doing it all” would mean doing this much. But we do it all, and then some.
  2. Because we’ve discovered patience we never knew we had.
  3. Because we are willing to do something 10 times, 100 times, 1,000 times if that’s what it takes for our kids to learn something new.
  4. Because we have heard doctors tell us the worst, and we’ve refused to believe them. TAKE THAT, nay-saying doctors of the world.
  5. Because we have bad days and breakdowns and bawl-fests, and then we pick ourselves up and keep right on going.
  6. Because we gracefully handle the stares, the comments, the rude remarks. Well, mostly gracefully.
  7. Because we manage to get ourselves together and get out the door looking pretty damn good. Heck, we even make sweatpants look good.
  8. Because we are strong. Man, are we strong. Who knew we could be this strong?
  9. Because we aren’t just moms, wives, cooks, cleaners, chauffeurs, women who work. We are moms, wives, cooks, cleaners, chauffeurs, women who work, physical therapists, speech therapists, occupational therapists, teachers, researchers, nurses, coaches, and cheerleaders. Whew.
  10. Because we work overtime every single day.
  11. Because we also worry overtime, but we work it through. Or we eat chocolate or Pirate’s Booty or gourmet cheese, which aren’t reimbursable by insurance as mental-health necessities but should be.
  12. Because we are more selfless than other moms. Our kids need us more.
  13. Because we give our kids with special needs endless love, and then we still have so much love left for our other kids, our husbands, our family. And our hairstylist, of course.
  14. Because we inspire one another in this crazy blogosphere every single day.
  15. Because we understand our kids better than anyone else—even if they can’t talk, even if they can’t gesture, even if they can’t look us in the eye. We know. We just know.
  16. Because we never stop pushing for our kids.
  17. Because we never stop hoping for them, either.
  18. Because just when it seems like things are going OK, they’re suddenly not OK, but we deal. Somehow, we always deal, even when it seems like our heads or hearts might explode.
  19. Because when we look at our kids we just see great kids. Not “kids with cerebral palsy/autism/Down syndrome/developmental delays/whatever label.”
  20. Because, well, you tell me.
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  • Billi

    This is great ……just would like to add one more….we don’t believe in brick walls….there’s always an answer we just keep going over, under, or around to find it!

  • Elizabeth

    Because to us, ”unconditional love” isn’t a concept, it’s a lifestyle.

  • Karen

    I love this and would add a few more…

    Because we know there is NOTHING more important than the well-being of our kids…and we would give up EVERYTHING (our jobs, our careers, our houses and cars, our lifelong dreams) if we believed it would do ANYTHING to make a difference in our kids’ opportunity to live the best life possible.  And we wouldn’t blink an eye along the way or ever second-guess our choices.

    And, because we are relentless. Relentless advocates for our children, relentless experts on their needs, and relentless givers of love and compassion. 

    And, because every day we get the unique opportunity to witness the triumph of the human spirit and the miracle of the resiliancy of our kids.

  • http://www.dobox.com/ Bruce

    This is great ……just would like to add one more….we don’t believe in brick walls….there’s always an answer we just keep going over, under, or around to find it!

  • shellie

    Wht a great list, you hit the nail on the head.  Think I will print it and post it, sometimes we need a reminder for ourselves.

    Love and Peace

  • http://happyrain.org/ Emily

    This is great ……just would like to add one more….we don’t believe in brick walls….there’s always an answer we just keep going over, under, or around to find it!

  • lili

    because we have to write our own book because no one else understands, or cares, to help us understand our child.

  • Jackie

    All I can say in AMEN, and Thank you!

  • Sara Parrish

    I love this my son has Downs Syndrome. He was born May 11 of this year and has been at Riley Childrens hospital ever since I had him. He was born 2 months early to decreassed heart rate. He weighed in at a wopping 1lbs. 9oz. We have had a heart surgery(PA Band), G-tube, 3 hernias, clamped his stomach to stop him from having reflux so he does not asperate and a testicle that had not dropped so they did that also. We have been through hell and until you go through something like this you truly don’t know. So to the people who say,” I know how you feel’, YOU DONT! It is hard and alot of tears are shed but it has brought me closer and closer to my husband, you find out who your true friends and FAMILY are. You appriciate life so much more and learn you have to be patient but sometimes you just can not be. I love my family and the way it is! I truly thank god everyday and feel so blessed. :)

  • Michelle

    I love this and I have one to add…..because we are chosen, trusted especially for them to  advocate and educate everyone from strangers to family and teachers!

  • joan strange

    what an inspiring list..especially no 18..just when you think things are manageable,suddenly,they’re not..and so you dig for more courage and amazingly,find it,maybe that’s the meaning of life?

  • http://NoahsDad.com Noahs Dad

    Don’t forget the dads..! :)
    Check out how much fun we have at the Smith house —-> http://Noahsdad.com

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